Define Me We’ve all had a vision or a great idea and had someone
who knows better squash it. We’ve all decided to clear our
debts, but been tempted by the next great offer. We’ve all been
determined to save up for a holiday or some other thing that
will enhance our lives and then been clobbered by a bill that
sets us back a month or few. We’ve all affirmed a diet in one
moment and been offered chocolate in the next. We’ve all ran a
mile from heartache and nightmare, as well as from our dreams or
love affairs and we’ve all laughed when we should have cried,
cried when we could have laughed and ran ourselves into a
downward spiralling place. We’ve all judged ourselves too
harshly: beaten ourselves up for what we’re not, what we don’t
have and what we believe we can never be. But let’s not do that.
Let’s resolve not to define ourselves by our weakest moments.
Let’s resolve not to make harsh judgments on ourselves for our
failings. Should we really give ourselves a hard time –
slaughter ourselves for trying, but not achieving? The answer to
this my friend is no. Some moments in life are all about just
showing up, or taking part. Some moments are about just hanging
on, gripping onto what you have and hoping the pain passes. Its
moments like these that humble us – make us realise that maybe
something else in our life had greater importance than our work,
or the gadgets we crave or the TV soap operas that hook us. But
pause a moment, right here, right now and just mull over your
last action today – not the result: the winning or the losing -
but the action itself, of taking part or not – and if you did
define yourself by your last action, what have you just been?
Who have you just been? And if you did define yourself by all of
the actions you took today – not the results: the winning or
losing – but the action itself, of taking part or not - what
have you become this day? I tell you this though… It’s not all
about right now, or even today. It’s not even about looking at
what you have done and understanding it better. But a life full
of purpose is a life full of making better choices – choices
from your highest place: your highest standards, your highest
beliefs and your highest dreams. Have you and I really come to
this day in our life as all we can be? Have we come to this
point in our lives - through all our toils, troubles and
experiences – to be without a vision and be financially broke?
Have we come to this day to be fat or sick or too feeble minded
to stand up for our beliefs, our dreams and our hopes? Have we
come to this day to not show the people around us we love them?
Here my friend is what defines us: In every thought we make a
statement. In that statement we define our current belief. In
every belief about our current situation we build our history
and ultimately that history comes to this point… To do or to
die. Take a look at nature. It is either growing or dying: every
tree, every blade of grass, every insect, every animal and every
human being is the same – growing or dying. If you find yourself
habitually saying: I don’t have the confidence instead of
saying, I’ll try, I can’t afford that, instead of saying, I’ll
find a way, I don’t have the time, instead of turning off the
telly, or Diets don’t work instead of finding one that does
Where are you heading? Life without purpose is just misery and
muddle. Promise yourself to make your life purposeful! Don’t
just live it. Mean it!
What will you do improve in your life?